should I be "resilient" and persevere?


From Mind Valley 
If I hit a major setback in life, how do I know if I should be "resilient" and persevere?
... Or if I should take it as a sign from the Universe to let go and move on?"
BIG dilemma. 
On one hand, we're taught that "persistence is a virtue"...
But at the same time, you don't want to be "fighting a losing battle" either.
So, what should you do?
Well, that right there is the problem, according to Srikumar. 
Instead of asking yourself what you should do — quit or persevere — Srikumar suggests asking yourself...
"Who am I being?"
To explain exactly what he means by this, I want to share an excerpt of a fantastic article Srikumar wrote for Psychology Today, where he details a simple framework to decide when to keep at it and when to give up.
"Take an example: If you believe you are stuck in a toxic job environment, then you are being a victim of external circumstances and indulging in self-pity. You are also being "me-centered" and definitely not in an emotional domain of appreciation and gratitude.
Is this where you want to be?
Assuredly not.
So who do you want to be? You want to be a person who is calm and serene, grateful for the many things in her life and willing to work hard to "fix" the areas where your preferences are not being met.
Think about who you want to be and then pour your emotional energy into that being. In other words be the person you want to be...
Now ask yourself what this person would do in your situation. And the answer will pop out easily.
You may decide to remain and try harder. You may decide to quit and go elsewhere.
It does not matter.
Because here is a great truth for you to ponder:
Who you are being is much more important that what you are doing."

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